The Theory of the Flares

Several years ago I was sitting in Mission Prep with Bro Bott
(A legend at BYU....seriously its more like LIFE prep than Mission Prep...AWESOME!!)

This particular day he was talking about relationships and missions....before, during, and after.
Of course we could go into each...but lets just talk about the one that matters to all the people reading this.  AFTER!!!!  So basically normal relationships that have the possibility of progressing in a normal fashion.

Ever heard of the idea that opposites attract?  Well I would like to debunk that right here, right now. 
Picture it....you are a bookworm who loves to sit in a dark basement playing video games.  Are you attracted to a person who loves to hike and kayak and do other outdoorsy things??  Not really......you would have nothing in common. 

So like attracts like.  Do you know why this is?
Because every person sends out flares...
every day as you walk around campus...work...even the grocery store

(please excuse the Mormon jargon that is about to follow)

You read your scriptures...you send out a "I read my scriptures" flare
You go to church....you send out a  "I go to church" flare.
Prayer flares...treat people kindly flares...pay tithing flares...I have a temple recommend flares...you get the picture.
And its not just habits that fly from your overall hot ball of gas.  Things you like....things you are interested in....views....values...beliefs.  They all come together to shape the "first impression".

So what is the point of these flares you may ask.  Well-you attract people with them. 
You really can tell a lot about a person by their "aura" ....so to speak. 

Haven't you ever had one of those moments when you start up a conversation with someone and realize you are crazy alike?  That is because you subconsciously saw their flares...and they saw yours...and a conversation began. 


So here is the take home message.  You want to attract someone great.  You better send out great flares. 

Basically make yourself great....and you will do just fine. 

(Another disclaimer.....just because you are sending out great flares doesn't mean you will automatically get someone great.  There is timing involved too....this is not an all encompassing theory)


AND....ps.....shout out to Andrew....this theory sounds strangely like one of your "Philosophies of Relationships"  You really should agree to guest blog!!!!  My followers would love to hear from you.  Can't you hear them shouting??  ANDREW ANDREW ANDREW!!!!!   hehe...I'll persuade you sooner or later ;)