And let me give you the song again.....in case you didn't listen to it the last time.
Have you ever heard a girl completely scandalized at the prospect of being called "hot". They are offended and feel "objectified".
Now ladies..lets tell the truth, We don't mind it that much. Its kind of complimenting.
To a point........
I was talking to an old friend recently and was told that in our group, I was considered the "hot one" and another friend of mine was considered the "cute one" And for some reason...this kind of upset me.
Whenever a guy I have been dating has told me I looked hot that day, I have been flattered. But for some reason....when its a larger general group...and they are taking about overall, general, all the time? I am not really flattered.
All "growing up" (meaning my late adolescents and early adulthood) I wanted to be considered "hot". And now that I may....(that sounds prideful....so I will insert the obligatory) or may not....have achieved that I'm less then satisfied.
"Its like finding out your favorite love song was written about a sandwich."
I'm not saying I don't want to occasionally be considered hot. But my problem is that this is what I am apparently known for. I look through my wardrobe and feel like I have nothing that is "pretty". I go shopping and there is NOTHING that is remotely "pretty". The world seems to be in the same boat as me. Stuck in this cycle of attracting people in the wrong way. Everything is overly accentuated.
I don't want to be thought of as hot. Or attractive. Or pretty. Or gorgeous. Or adorable. Or cute.
So your question is...What then, Miss Whiny-Pants, do you want to be thought of as? How do you want people to see you?
WELL...since you asked. Lovely. I want to be lovely.
Lovely is all encompassing. It means you dress well. That you are neat and clean and put together. It means that you carry yourself well. Lovely means clothes that aren't skin tight or super revealing, but that are flattering. It means modest...both in the "covered-up" sense, and the "appropriate" sense. Lovely is confident, but not prideful.
And it involves personality. Lovely people are kind and caring and sweet...mild mannered.
Lovely people have an aura. People notice them. And the only word to describe them is...lovely.
So I want to be lovely. I'm not sure how to do it to be honest. I think I'll have to start from the inside out. I have to change my attitudes...and my habits. But in this new year...along with being kinder...I am going to try and be more lovely.
And I am going to use as my muse for this endeavor-MY FAVORITE actress....the epitome of lovely....Audrey Hepburn.
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| Even as she aged....she stayed lovely! |
"I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner...I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."
"The greatest beauty tip:
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his / her hands through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed, never throw out anyone. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands; one for helping yourself, and the other for helping others. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
"The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years. "


































