Follow Your Arrow

Alright....gonna chat for a bit about dating (sort of).....and advice........and a song I like lots and lots

So I LOVE LOVE LOVE this song.....Follow Your Arrow: Kacey Musgraves
for one line and one line alone

ok two......

(Can you guess which 2??????)

https://soundcloud.com/julie-humphries-1/follow-your-arrow 


(ok so there are more reasons to love it)


The past several weeks I have been receiving a great deal of advice.
Some sought after, some not.  Some helpful, some....eh hmmm less helpful.


But the biggest thing I have learned from advice receiving????
...good luck deciphering it all.

Ms Her says go left.  Mr Him says go right.  Mrs She says go up.  Msrt He says go down.

Bobby says date Billy.  Susie says run as fast as you can AWAY from Billy.
And to top it all off Jimmy some how figured out a way to suggest you do both!

NOW WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH ALL THAT??????????


Do what makes you happy they say

OH I AM TRYING!!!!


But really advice can be nice.  I generally appreciate it, and I generally have no problem giving it.
HOWEVER...

To receivers of advice...I give you a bit of advice (no the irony is not lost on me!)


Just follow your arrow.....
Wherever it points

Basically...trial and error.  Go for what you think will work great....

And if it doesn't...redirect and try something else.

So often we are completely unwilling to try things out.  

What if it fails, what if I look like a fool.

BUT what if it succeeds, what if you look like a hero.

So do what is hard.  Don't listen to anyone but yourself.

Ask her out.  Break up with him.  Find a new job.  Go back to school.

Follow your dream whatever it takes.

(The irony of this post coming the week of V-day is also not lost on me!)

So Be Happy....Be Healthy

(oh and in case you didn't guess...the lines are "Horrrrrrrrr-ible person" and "Kiss lots of boys")

Musical credits to Julie Humphries

dear girls?????

OK so I totally have things to say to the girls too!

So alas...a dear girls!  A mix of the lovely...and the slightly less.  Hey-nobody is perfect!

dear mean girls
really???  we are going to do this?
we are going to be unkind and petty?
we are going to be hypocritical and down right ridiculous
COME ON!!!!
love
the girls you seem to hate


dear hurt ones
the phrase "you would be surprised what skeletons are in their closets"
is not true for me.
i'm not surprised at all.  hurt people hurt other people.
i am sad for you and for the difficult lives you must lead.
but rise above.  there is never a good excuse to cause another pain
love
best friend of the one you hurt


dear wounded friend
you are truly incredible!  you keep going even when you have every reason to be spiteful.
you really impressed me with how you handled the whole thing.
you rose above and i'm proud to be able to call you friend.
love
me
ps...if you want to punch em...ive got your back


dear meredith
you can do this!  we both know you can!
i love you
love
christina


dear teacher
don't forget to take care of yourself.
you want to be perfect and i commend you for that.
but remember to cut yourself some slack every so often,
cause though you are close...you aren't there yet.
love
an always worrying friend


dear gals at work
thank you for making it so i can handle this mess just a little bit better.
even though its a chore sometimes...work is always better when you are on too
love
a temporarily burned out nurse


dear wives
yes...it is high school.  no...i don't have faith that it will be fixed, cause i thought it was and it broke again.
no...i don't know what to tell you to do.
love
member who wants to run


dear biggest enemy at this time
you expect me to work harder for you and be happier after that?
yeah-not gonna happen!
sorry charlie...but i'm OUT!
love
yeah.......


dear girls on the back row
i'm sure you feel like outsiders sometimes...and i hope i never am the cause of it.
you are truly great people...and i hope you aren't hiding back there.
i'm all about being ON the back row.  just don't BE the back row.
you are too cool for that.
love
a middle row sitter

dear....cold ones?
i think you were never hugged as a child.  thats the problem.
be prepared to be loved excessively.
i'm going to try and make up for it!
love
girl who is gonna kill you with kindness---watch out!

Anyway everyone.

Be Happy and Be Healthy

And most of all..... Be kind to each other!

Dear Boys and Girls

I feel like a teacher when I say that!  haha

Before I launch into a bunch of letters---I have been hearing from a few concerned people lately. And I wanted to remind you guys of my constant disclaimer about these letters.
REMEMBER I write about ALL SORTS of people.  People from my past...my present.  People my friends know...some people who I've never even met.  Groups of people...and types of people...lots of different people.
Don't assume its you...k???  It just leads to confusion.  Think of it all as fiction if that helps! :)

Alright then boys and girls...I give you.....

dear summer boy
I was hoping something would happen with us. I didn't care if it was romantic or friendly. Both would have made me happy. But oh well, guess that is just not gonna happen.
love
a disappointed girl

dear mr drive me crazy
This is neither the appropriate place, situation or time. Let's take a step back and remember that there is an order to things--especially church things. Let's not get ahead of ourselves.
love
a girl who wants to back this train up!!!

dear concerned boy
It is very kind of you to be concerned about the big picture...the larger whole. Be careful not to become one of those "people [who] can't see past the end of their own noses". Don't forget the people who are right there. They need your concern too.
love
mary poppins

dear kind women
Thank you for your welcomes. You are so kind. Just enough to show concern, but not to appear like you are pouncing. This is exactly what I needed.  And if you want me to take your children-I would be happy to!
love
a scared little ysa

dear sweet little girl
Aren't you just the cutest? If I need a matchmaker...I will surely call you.
But for now....lets just be friends and not bump me up to the rank of stepmom in a matter of minutes!
love
a flattered and amused girl

dear babies
Younger and older...I FREAKING LOVE YOU!!!!!
You make EVERYTHING good and happy!
I'm gonna start carrying around toys and kiddo stuff in my purse.
Then I can lure you in and get you to play with me!!!!
love
that one crazy girl who always makes faces that make you laugh

dear sooooooo inappropriate
COULD THERE BE A WORSE TIME TO ASK ME QUESTIONS???
I am OBVIOUSLY in a distraught and compromised emotional state.
There is a time and a place..and its not now!
love
NOT RIGHT NOW girl

dear chicago
WHAT THE FLIP???? Can we say totally unexpected?? But TOTALLY welcomed!
I asked life for some excitement and your text shows up on my phone the next morning.
I thought it was my alarm! Well I'll be darned!!!
Phone chat soon...yes yes!  You owe me for standing me up that one time!
love
that excited girl

dear mickey
If everything goes exactly like I want it to, it will only be a couple more months of waiting. Are you excited? I am!!! Oh the stories we will have to tell each other!!!!
Lots of navigating has been happening. That is FOR SURE!!!!!
love
minnie

Dear People of the World

Its a dear boys and a dear girls day.....
DEAR EVERYONE!!!!

don't forget to check out Elise-y





dear tasmanian devil
You are terrible!  Trust me...I will be getting an A in this class if I have to fly to Tasmania myself and enter it into your gradebook myself!!!!
love
a girl who is mad..so watch out!

dear summer sales boys
ooo la la!  Hold onto you polos, khakis and clipboards...cause we, my friends, are gonna have a ROCKIN summer!!!!!!
love
super excited for the upcoming showing of AWESOMENESS

dear noah
you can have all of me...forever...everyday...
just saying.....
love
wishin i was Allie

dear guy on the diamond ring commercial
I'll take it if she won't!!!!
love
diamond's best friend

dear beard boy
Too bad you are dating that one other girl...
who is prolly more your type anyway but....
love
the girl in the leather jacket

dear ben folds fan
Too bad we can't get to know each other better.
What CRUMMY timing!
love
resigned girl

and finally...


dear UNAVAILABLE BOYS
Why are you always the ones I am attracted to??
The ones who I could have I don't want.
But if you are unavailable...of course I find you attractive!
love
girl who hates murphy's law of dating!!!

Dear Girls...cause I'm Giving Up on Boys

Dear Tender Mercy
You could not have entered my life at a more perfect time!  I needed you and I am so glad we are here together now!  You are such an example to me and are always there for me.  I LOVE YOU!!!
love
A Grateful Friend

Dear Quirky Girl
I'm all smiles :)
love
YSA  ;)

Dear Jane
You are beautiful and talented!  You are the definition of the word lovely!
Love
Lizzy

Dear Investigator
We have a lot to offer.  I hope I will see you soon!
Love
The Extrovert

Dear Visitor
YOU ARE BACK!!!!!!
SOOOO Exciting!!!!!

love
Your Valentine

Dear HC 15
I miss you like crazy!  Your laughs...your support!
Fingers crossed I see you soon!
Love
Me

Dear HC 16
Miss you too!!!!
All the laughs and the tears.
You were always there for me!
And I will always love you for that!
Love
Me

Dear 92nder Females
Oh good grief just thinking about our fun times makes me want to smile and cry all at the same time.
Thank you for being amazing examples...amazing friends....amazing girls.  I have not since met more than one or two girls who meet your caliber of amazingness. I love you!!!! 
Love
Me


Dear Bloggy Buddies
Thank you for your inspiration.  Having a set of virtual acquaintances and friends may seem weird to some.  But I am very grateful.  You guys give me ideas, make me think, smile, cry, and laugh, and motivate me!
Love Love
Total Swillyness!!!!


as always...check out Elise!!!!  :)

Dear Boy AND Girl

HAPPY LEAP DAY!!!!!!!!

hold onto your hats....and here we go!!!

dear farm boy
Really?  If what I hear is true....man really?
I hope its not true.
I hope I wasn't so stupid that I didn't see it.
I hope he got the dates mixed up.
I hope someone was lying to stir up trouble.
I hope the liar wasn't you. I hope I hope I hope.
love
buttercup

dear farm boy
If it is true.....
Jerk does not even begin to describe you
~bitter buttercup

dear farm boy
So I found out more info...
Looks like you weren't a TERRIBLE person.
But still not exactly the best person.
But whatever...I'm over it...and over you
sincerely
stephanie


OK...we are going to take advantage of  this Dear Girls button...and have a little fun!




dear the other women
Or is that my name?
Or was it either of our names??
Too bad we both got played.
love
the other other women

dear girls everywhere
TRUST ME stay away from the smooth ones
The sweep you off your feet.
And then drop you like a hot potato.....

love
a played girl