I have a lot of things that I want this post to be. I have been thinking and writing/rewriting it in my head for a week or 2 now. And I suspect this version you are reading now is at least draft 10!
What I want to talk about has been really important to me recently.
And I think it may not end up in one post. We may be talking about this for weeks!
It has been said that trials come into our lives for 3 reasons
1.We make poor choices that lead to our unhappiness
2. Others make choices that hurt or harm us
3. Life happens and our mortality leads to inevitable grief and sadness
Truth for sure. Its gonna happen...no matter what
BUT
Recently I have better understood our role in our own happiness....in spite of both trials and good times.
There are many reasons why, and I guess that will be where future posts come from.
But today I want to talk about one inspiration.
Mara and Danny from A Blog About Love
This couple is one of the most inspiration and amazing two people I have ever "met"
Both have experienced extremely deep heartaches in their lives. Their hearts have been truly broken.
They have every right and every reason and every excuse to be bitter, jaded, coarse and unhappy.
But they are exactly the opposite.
When I read
THIS I was floored. The idea that
working for happiness was not foreign to me.
But the idea that we had to let go of the things we think we need to be happy, to truly be happy..that one shook me a bit.
To really get to the place where Mara is, there is a lot of surrendering that has to be done. A lot of changing of attitudes and priorities and perspective. A LOT of work!
And I don't want to say that I don't want to do the work.
Because isn't true happiness worth ALL the work in the world?
OF COURSE!!!
When talking to one of my best friends about this type of surrender and type of change, I caught myself saying "I'm just not there. I just can't do that right now."
And I don't believe I was wrong. I am not yet ready to completely let go. I'm not in a place where I can relinquish control like that.
But I do think I was too dismissing. I was too dismissing of the possibility that the ultimate goal could be reached with small baby steps.
My mother is forever saying "you eat an elephant one bite at a time"
But I didn't know where to start. The complete overhaul I would need to allow myself to truly be happy was so overwhelming, I didn't know where to begin.
But Mara came to my rescue! She recently posted THIS about her active and intentional gratitude following a very significant trial.
So that is where I have begun. I have already started here in my blog world, trying to find the positive, and being happy for the simple joys in life.
And can I tell you since I have been trying to do it in my "outside life", amazing things have happened.
Days that should be terrible aren't so bad. Hard things seem easier to deal with and move on from.
And it hasn't been as hard as I thought.
It was one simple step. And once I feel I have it down, I will take another.
Now I always say at the end of my posts Be Happy Be Healthy.
But this time I really want you all to know that I mean it!