Theory Thursday-

Dear Boys-Hospital Edition

happy wednesday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dear dr gold-digger
you drive me crazy!  also when I say my patient needs some medications....help a sister out!
love
a nurse

dear dr too much cologne
seriously dude!  wow!  guess its better than what the hospital usually smells like.  but still
a little much my dear physician colleague
love
your nurse colleague

dear particular patient
i realize that you think you know what you are doing.  and you do know a lot about your care.  but we do too.  we do this everyday.  maybe listen to us a little.  we promise to listen to you too.
love
a frustrated nurse

dear hospital administration
just a suggestion...we for reals need to do something about this under-staffing issue.
perhaps travelers?  maybe more nurses in general.  i don't care which you choose...just make it easier for me and my fellow nurses to want to come into work.
love
an exhausted nurse



be happy be healthy

The First of Many Posts Regarding Jane Austen

Alright People...Truth Time!

FOR REALS!!!!!!!
Nicole posted this....so I give her credit.

But yeah....something to think about hehehe

In case you want to be confused and unsure of yourself ;)

Presenting of Armpits-Real of Bogus???

Alright Theory Thursday peeps!

Most of my family are fans of this show, so I occasionally catch an episode with them.

A few weeks back...this clip was on.....

Hmmmmm...

I think I agree with the Kensi girl.....he has a concussion.

But it does bring to the table a consideration of subconscious 

Dear Boys...what number am I on?????

dear fall  (i have always thought fall was a guy)
i am so glad you are here.  i'm breaking out the cozy sweaters and boots.  and it makes me one happy girl!
and seriously you always make my backyard so pretty.  thank you!
love
ms autumn

dear ginger
yeah this is just going to end up being a friend thing for us.  its a girl-code thing.  i'm not going to betray the sisterhood.  guess we will see how it works out.  cause honestly right now its just all sorts of awkward.  but maybe it will get better.
love
a sister suffragette

dear tall and lanky
you are funny too eh???  and smart and apparently talented.  sounds like a recipe for friendship to me!
guess we will see
love
that girl you never have spoken to
ps...you should really change that :)

dear danny
ok for reals???  could you BEEEEE anymore awesome???  life is so not fair sometimes.
hot (like FOR REALS OMGSH!!!!), successful, kind...the trifecta!
seriously singing this song (minus the breakup part...since we have never actually met haha)

love
a a girl who is moving to Boston to find your twin


dear boston
its too far away for me to be this obsessed!  really i need to live in the moment...not in a year from now!
so if you could just take up a little less of my brain space i would appreciate it!
love
a girl craving exciting adventures

dear st louis
i really do love you.  you are really amazing.  you just have left me with very little social opportunities.
love
a girl craving exciting adventures

dear dr without a ring
yes you are right it is a little too forward to share chapstick with a nurse you have never met before.
also...though i find the idea of flirting with a cute doctor exciting....i need to focus right now...and you are messing up my focus.
love
a focused nurse

dear mickey
where were you monday night?  i was having a crisis and all i wanted was a hug from you.  too bad you don't kick it here in the S-T-izzle.
love
well....me

Don't forget to check out miss elisey :D




BE HAPPY      BE HEALTHY!!!!!

A New Leaf Perhaps???

I had a moment tonight.

A moment where I was thrust into a place I have been before.

A place of condescension and mean-ness.
A place of negativity.

It took me by surprise a little bit.

I guess I got a tad complacent.
I started out reacting in my old way....very un-lovely.

My efforts to be lovely are so often thwarted by my desire for...well defending myself.
I always want to speak up and not let people do or say things that are wrong
(not just truth wrong...but not ok wrong)

But last night...I eventually stopped.  I just sat.  I didn't say a word.

I know people always say be assertive...and yeah that is true.
But when faced with a foe who is trying to bring you down....maybe a little bit of passivity is needed...

So I've decided to just

Restless

I've been here (St Louis) for roughly 2.5 months.

Lots has changed.  And I've kinda gotten used to all of them.

And now I want something else.

I want the life I've been dreaming about since....eh IDK maybe Sunday??

I don't really know what snapped me into it.

But...want to hear my dream???


Picture this....

Boston, Massachusetts
Home of Boston Children's Hospital
Awarded best Pediatric Cardiology program/care in the nation

A gorgeous brick apartment...that is slightly too expensive but has a balcony with an absolutely gorgeous view.
Weather that requires cute colored coats, wool tights and boots.


Plus throw in a few preppy-dressed boys...and we have ourselves a pretty awesome picture right???






and I can't get it out of my head.....so that's my dream....I'll see you in a year Boston

Dear Mickey

Can I have a moment to be kind of pathetic?  I really want us to

First Love.....and Last Love

But I do think that the first love is always the most different. 
For me it was all new and different. I trusted faster and gave more right away. I think the last will be the one I trust the most, and the one I give most slowly.
The first love is one you will never forget. The ones in the middle you might. But the first and last are the most special. 
I think it is because they are the most alike. The first was the one you gave knowingly. The last, the one that you willingly. But hey...what do I know hahaha! Thanks for the thoughts though :)


Many have said that your first love is your only true love.  That you can't love anyone else as fully because of the first.
Kind of a bummer for the last guy isn't it?
Is there some sort of subtraction that happens every time you give your heart to someone??

I would like to say strong NO!   But I will say that the first love is different

Up Too Late

I'm sorry I missed my dear boys post Wednesday....

I got a flu shot Wednesday.  And it SUCKED!!!!
It gave me the flu!!!!!
And an arm that is still sore....36 hours later!!!!!
(Yes I am a nurse who DOES NOT believe in the flu shot!)

We will just have to postpone it...cause lets be honest....there are no boys to write about.....

Except my Cardinals...who let me down tonight (or last night), but hopefully tomorrow (today) will be better for them......

But they are real boys.

I am having an interesting night.  I get like that at 2 AM.
I was headed to bed at 11:45 PM.

But I played on FB for a while.  Then Pinterest.
Decided what clothes my family will wear for our post-mission pictures..and where we will take them.

Then somehow I ended up on YouTube getting the Grey's fix that was denied me tonight (last night) by the VP debate (which lets be honest is actually a rather pointless exercise....)

And I have spent the last...well far to long....watching the story of Lexie and Mark.  My favorite Grey's couple......and now I'm all mourning fictional characters...and being jealous of their fictitious love....and listening to sad cheesy love songs.

YES YOU MAY JUDGE ME!!!!

(trust me...I'm even judging me!)

I SO NEED TO GO TO BED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

New theory....girls who are strong and unpathetic during the day are far more prone to become pathetic and pitiful the later it gets.

TRUTH!

Goodnight   :)

The World According To THIS Swilly Girl

NEW SERIES  Bloggy people!!!!!!

The World According to THIS Swilly Girl  aka  TWATTSG (pronounced tee-watt-sss-gugh)  (cause that is so much more clear!!!!)

Anyway.  Its not like I don't do this already...isn't that simply the nature of a blog???

But these posts will signify that the below musings and opinions are simply that.....OPINIONS and MUSINGS.  Not fact...not doctrine...not necessarily truth.

Just what I think.  I feel like if I create this series...I won't have to do the whole *disclaimer stuff at the beginnings of posts!


ANYWAYS.....

Lets start with some background.

Background info 1
This past weekend was General Conference.  This is a worldwide broadcast of speeches given by the leaders of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (MORMONS!).  Twice a year for the whole weekend (four 2 hour sessions) we are able to hear messages concerning doctrine, counsel and other important church information.  We believe that these leaders receive direct revelation from God on what they should say and therefore treat the transcripts of these speeches as scripture (just like the Bible)  Its a pretty unheard-of notion in modern-day Christianity and is one of my favorite aspects of my religion.

Background info 2
Our church has a rich history and involvement in missionary work.  We believe strongly in service and in sharing the message of the Gospel with all who will listen.  To facilitate this effort, (single) young men 19-26 are STRONGLY encouraged (never forced of course...but advised and counseled to) spend 2 years serving proselytizing missions.  Single women also serve similar proselytizing missions for 18 months from the age 21 up however, less emphasis is placed on their service (basically they are THRILLED to have sisters serve, but they should not feel any obligation). (Older couples also serve...but lets not get into the nitty-gritty of that).


SOOOOO...this weekend President Thomas S Monson, the current prophet and president of the Church announced a change to the above guidelines.  Young men now serve ages 18-26 and women ages 19 and up.

Now anyone who has Mormon Facebook friends/Twitter....people (what are Twitter people called???) likely saw this change as social networking sites EXPLODED with everyone getting all in a tizzy.

There were not any obviously negative remarks.  Lots of guys feeling like they will have no one to date (so you do admit you are going for the younger ones said bitter 20-something women everywhere!).  And many girls published their plans to bang down their bishops doors.

And I am sorry...shoot me...call me unrighteous...but I could NOT understand what all the fuss was about.  It seemed to me like everyone was making a big deal out of something relatively small.


But then I pondered.  I got off Facebook and focused on what the other speakers had said in regards to the announcement.

They were all grateful.  They thought it was monumental.

A scripture we often quote in our church is
But the word of the Lord was unto them precept upon precept,precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little,and there a little; that they might go
Isaiah 28:13

We believe that this scripture indicates that the Lord teaches us and requires things of us AS WE ARE READY.

This change does not mean that every girl is going to leave at 19.  It does not mean that guys will all leave at 18.  It means that it is now an option.
It means that young men and women will need to pray, counsel with parents and church leaders.  It means that they will need to consider life circumstances, educational plans and financial situations.
And they did this already to a point.
But now the question of when has entered more fully than before.

So I agree with apostles.  I am truly grateful for this change (though still hesitant about what it might mean from a social/family perspective).
Because do you know what it means?  It means that our youth are so strong that their Heavenly Father trusts them enough to give them more choices.  He trusts that they will make the right decision and go about making that decision in the proper way.

And that gives me a lot of confidence.....just saying.

Addictions and Aversions

Friday A & As??


Addictions:

THIS BLOG  (seriously I have been "back reading" (yes I realize I should do something with my life like idk get off the couch but...) ) I ADORE these girls.  I want to move back to UT just to sleep on their couch and bask in our combined weird/awkward awesomeness.  Also the 3 of us could write a book together...and start a business....or a TV show....or have lots of fun.....or all of the above!

Jane Austen  (I will blog more about this later..like FOR REALS...SIR-E-OUSLY)

HUMMUS  OMGSH!!!!!!!!

THIS SONG  I know I have said this before....and it might make me a sinner.  but whateves


Aversions:

Answering my phone.....apparently.  This is not a conscious aversion.  Usually.  Some people are in my phone simply so I know not to answer.  But usually I honestly don't answer purely accidentally.  I'm really bad about leaving my phone in my room.  Or in my purse.  Or on vibrate.....and I simply don't hear it!  sorry erreybody


Feet (other than my own) on my bed.  This is not a new thing.  Just something I thought I would share.

Getting out of bed while it is still dark  dear night shift....I may really like you!


How bouts yous???

Theory Thursday: Going on Dates vs Dating vs Courtship

So definitions are very important.  Inappropriate understandings of definitions is what leads to the majority of freaking out that occurs in the dating world. (or more accurately differing understandings of definitions creates DRAMA!)

Now many people have discussed the first distinction ad nauseum.

One can go on many dates and not be dating.  Dates are simply that...dates.  No commitment.  Just fun and good times and experiences.

Dating means commitment...titles etc.

When one wants or hopes or expects or assumes more...you get playlists consisting of Carrie Underwood and Taylor Swift with a touch of Alanis Morissette, a close relationship with gentleman named Ben and Jerry, and a strange attachment to sweatpants.  In short....depression.

I think we can all agree that this is no bueno.



BUT here lies the thing you may not have thought about..... while dating might mean commitment, titles, couple-like activities, dating DOES NOT mean expectations.

What expectations???  Straight up ladies and gents--marriage and activities that precede and lead to  marriage.

I know this might shake some people's ideas.  But I believe (my opinion, not that I have to clarify) that you can DATE someone and not plan/expect to marry them.

HOWEVER, if you consider yourself on the "marriage path" you are courting.  This is the most grown-up of the relationships (ideally).  Courting takes time and practical logical thought (not to the point of over-thinking though may I warn!).  Courting involves serious conversations, meeting of special people (aka family and friends).  It involves serious consideration of this person as your eternal mate.  (though it does not require an end of marriage)

These three distinctions often occur in a pattern like fashion.
You can go from dates to dating to courtship.  Though you may start dating...you may soon step into courtship.  Some people go from dates to courtship, and though I don't suggest it, it happens.

Examples!

Chicken Boy and I courted.  We had all the plans in the world for getting married (LITERALLY...maybe the detail with which we had planned out the rest of our lives was the reason we didn't work...I digress!)

Boy Next Door and I dated.  I called him my boyfriend, we did couple-y things.  But in all truthfulness, I had our "break-up song" picked out three days into the relationship (don't judge me...I was lonely yes it was a poor choice!)  So yeah I had no expectations for our marriage.

Bubble Boy or Pretty Blue Eyes or Redhead Lover  and I went on dates.  Two each in fact haha.  Sometimes the expectations were different on each side..which led to the inevitable depression of one of the parties.  But there was no commitment.


NOW...why have I spent so long discussing this???
Here is your take home message.....
Be aware of your position and make sure that it matches what you want from the relationship.
And make sure your expectations match the relationship you are in.

Trust me people it will prevent LOTS of heartache.

Be Happy Be Healthy!

Another Dear Boys...cause I can't wait a week

dear dude in hospital parking lot
though i appreciate you appreciation of my ehem backside...you should see it in a good pair of jeans.  these scrubs don't do ANYTHING for me!
love
a nurse who is unsure whether or not to be flattered or offended