Why Is It Such A Big Deal???

May I ask a question?

When did going on a first date become such a big deal????

I'll admit I've been super pumped/psyched/moderately stressed when the first date was with someone I had a high level of interest in (see explanation HERE)

But as a general rule, a first date is just that.  A first date.  Someone you know-who you want to get to know better.  At that point you are just acquaintances.

Now may I throw in another twist??

The phenomenon that is LDS singles congregations.  They are like rumor mills on STEROIDS!!!

So many who are part of these bad social experiments (tehehe) choose to keep first dates a secret.

And so I ask again.

Why is it such a big deal????

Who cares if the WHOLE ward is talking about how you went on a date with Susy?

The only thing they are truly saying is that Susy and Bob went on an excursion in an effort to have fun and become better friends.

Now whether or not is going to lead to romantic connections is really no one's business-I'll concede that point.

But why do we have to keep our activities a secret?  If I go out with my girl friend and someone asks me what I did and who I was with, I have no problem telling them.
And I feel the same way if the news I would be sharing involved a date.

Honestly this secrecy just breeds seriousness.  The lies and the avoidance just makes it a bigger deal than it has to be.

I guess I'm just on a simplify/honesty kick lately.

Lets keep things simple.  Lets just be mature and honest.  Lets just not make it a big deal!!!!!



Thats all----go forth and be chill :)


Be Happy Be Healthy!

Mature Adult Conversations

Alright-so you might get a little nervous with this title.

Yikes-what is this girl gonna talk about now????


Don't worry-this is going to remain G-rated.


So once upon a time (ok I admit it...once upon several times) I had this guy I kinda liked.  Alright lets be straight up...I really liked him.
And at the same time as I liked him, we developed a friendship.

(note to self-I need to stop developing crushes on my friends-it always ends...well not so well)


And being me-when it seemed like he didn't like me-I applied the good ol' "He's Just Not That Into Me" principle and stopped making any effort in our relationship (term used in general and broad manner).

Then friendships fizzled and sadness and depression ensued ;)

So I tell you all this as a cautionary tale.

Because I have grown a little (and by a little I mean microscopic growth!) since many of those "incidents"
And I have figured out how to do it best....mostly thanks to some great advice from a great friend

The conversation went something like this (minimal artistic license taken at some moments, as we are not always SUPA eloquent when speaking!!!).

"I miss him!  He's totally disappeared, and I miss my friend"
"Have you talked to him about it?"
"I probably should"
"Yes you should-you need to have a mature adult conversation about how you feel and what you need and what you want"


Oh people if only we followed this advice and more conversations like this!!!!!
Wouldn't our lives be much less complicated?????

I know-easier said than done-but try!!!

Put on some new shoes and turn over a new leaf.  Be strong and confident--adult and mature!!!!

Its refreshing-trust me!!!!

Enjoy some chipper music and......

Be Happy Be Healthy!!!!!

Confession!!!!!

Alright people.....
we all now I have a weak spot for boy bands.

OneDirection, the Jonas Brothers, Backstreet Boys......................


And then this morning......this song was on as I was driving home....

And yes I was rockin out!!!

Mainly cause it sounds like an old school 90s boy band throwback.
Plus-Flo Rida rocks!!!



Enjoy your Saturday and this song!

Be Happy Be Healthy

High Five for Friday

A good friend encouraged me to read the blog of a sister of one of my FAVE bloggers.

AKA....Kate from the Small Things Blog (the girl who does my hair online!)
AND  her sister Lauren from From My Grey Desk (who I am about to get dangerously obsessed with!)

Love em!!!!

Anyway Lauren does High Five Fridays...so I thought I would join up for the day!

So here are 5 cool things from my week!




1. MONEY SHIFT!!!!!  Thursday I picked up an extra shift for 3x my normal hourly pay.  FOR REALS peeps...  Its great but when the 4 weeks of this is over I'm likely going to want to kill anything living in my path....but...hey MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!!!

2. Date with a person new to my circle tomorrow.  Should be fun-cause we all know how I love adding people to my circle!

3. The weather is getting warmer.  It might not stay warmer....but it still is warmer.  And that means spring is coming.  ITS COMING ITS COMING!!!!!!!!!!

4. The Easter Bunny is hopping around my branch.  AND I LOVE IT!!!!!!!  Doorbell ditching candy filled eggs???  How sweet is that????

5. I tried on my new work uniform.  All black is NOT cool. But I do like the style.  And let me just say-whatever material these new scrubs are made of--feels SUPA nice and soft :)









 

Theme Song Thursday

Alright Peeps!

I NEED TO GET OUT!!!!!

I need to wear my modestly short skirt, my ankle breaking heels!!!!
A night out on the town, livin it UP!


But instead...I sit around and the phone doesn't ring.
And so I work

Its nice for the extra money.
But its super boring!


No offense to the over-50 crowd I hang out with at the hospital.
But really....you aren't very cool.
Sorry....................................



And so today I'm singing this song.
Cause dude(s)...you are totally missin' out.
And if you don't get "here" soon....I'm gonna stop wasting the pretty!

"I've gotta dress that'll show a little uh-uh

But you ain't gettin any uh-uh if you don't come pick me up!"

"Its not like you got any place better to be!"

(Seriously I think inside I'm a big haired blonde cranky country singer bahahahahahaha)

Be Happy Be Healthy everyone.

And go out......

for me.....

and then tell me about it so I can live vicariously!!!!!!!!!!

Just A Song or Two

Lets be real.  Songwriters have always said things better than me.  Always.
Even if they are un-hipster Pop Stars  ;)

Happy Wednesday Everyone!


dear tractor guy




YEP YEP...you said it Demi!
love
city girl


 dear felon

 


SING IT Taylor!
love a girl who should have probably known better


 dear bell boy

 


alright so this one doesn't really work. but it is funny...you've gotta give me that!
love
a girl excited for Saturday's fun

LIEBSTER!!!!!!! AND a VLOG!!!!!!!!!!!

Huge thanks to Big Sister who nominated me for a Liebster Award!!!!

(see her blog HERE!)


There are a lot of 11s in the instructions for this. And though it would be SUPA fun...I don't have that kinda time/energy #nightshiftproblems

So I'm amending it a bit.....sorry to stop the fun with me...but pretty sure everyone I would nominate has been nominated so.......

BUT...I'm gonna add a fun twist-aka VLOG!!!!!


Its been forever since I've done one of these so...thought it might be fun!!!

Be Happy Be Healthy!!!!

I Feel So Domestic!

My goodness people...I'm like a regular old Mormon Mom today!

I started my day cleaning the bathrooms at the church building (each congregation takes a turn and my congregation is too small to really get the whole building-so we take turns doing the bathrooms!)

ps.....nurses should not be allowed to clean public bathrooms.  SERIOUSLY people....I used enough disinfectant to kill a large animal....let alone the little germies crawling everywhere.....
Those doorknobs and light switches have NEVER been so clean!
pps.....may or may not have gotten high from the large amount of cleaning chemicals I used......

Then I went to the grocery store.  On a Saturday-generally ill-advised (can we say crowded???)-but it turned out alright.  I only had to stare absent-mindedly at the trashy magazines for a few minutes in the check-out line.

THEN I made a cheesy garlic bread, cinnamon roll-style for the potluck dinner after church tomorrow!   (well I'm kinda still doing that-they are in the oven)
I think they will turn out very well.  They smell good at least!
YEAH for actually using Pinterest recipes!!!!!!

ALSO my lifetime goal has now become to make something that uses flour WITHOUT getting it ALL OVER myself and the kitchen!!!


Next up is getting real dressed (cleaning, grocery shopping and baking with flour do not require real clothes....sweatshirt/t-shirt and nasty jeans will suffice...judge away What Not To Wear!)
Cause I'm headed out tonight to hang out with the gals!
Who needs boys to ask you out on dates anyway?  We will just take ourselves out!!!!!  ;)

And then once I am all cute-I'm gonna make dinner for me and the 'rents.  Baby Sister is out of town for the weekend-so we get to eat like grown-ups instead of picky teenagers!
So another Pinterest recipe for us!!!
Nothing fancy-just a little Garlic Chicken with Broccoli.
I'll let you know how it turns out!!!!

I better be careful!  Too much domesticity and I might just become the type of girl guys will want to marry.

YIKES!!!  I better CUT THIS OUT!!!


Happy Saturday!

Be Happy Be Healthy

Again I'm Lazy

Usually I'm not an angry bitter girl.
But I'll be honest.
Sometimes a good sassy "girls are better than boys" song is just what the doctor ordered.
Not because you necessarily feel that way...but because its just fun to sing about shooting boys at the top of your lungs while driving into work.

Enjoy!

Dear Boys-A Kind One

So usually this is the time when I vent my frustrations with guys..both in my life and in the lives of my friends.


HOWEVER...today we are going to mix it up a bit....and be nice haha

But really.

dear guys...who are our friends

alright guys.  we girls are pretty hard on you sometimes.  we complain and whine and sometimes even straight up bash you.  BUT  we really do love you.

girl friends are great-super important...you need them to be your shopping buddies,  the ones who you can watch Nicholas Sparks movies with, the ones who are there for all your boy problems and tell you honestly if that dress makes you look fat or that lipstick makes you look like a hooker.

but every girl NEEDS one or two good guy friends.  guys can do things girls can't.
like give guy hugs.  seriously there is NOTHING better than a good guy hug.
and they give us guy perspective.  they tell us to stop freaking out and stop over-analyzing.
they give us chill drama-free fun (ok generally drama-free).

you make us feel special and cared about.
your compliments mean more than any ever given by our girl friends.
you "protect" us from scary things like the dark and creepy people
plus you can reach stuff on the top shelf and lift our heavy stuff!

and when we don't have you...we really miss it.
like REALLY miss it

so guys-thanks for being our friends.  please know that you are appreciated.
you are excellent.  and we like you A LOT!

love
the girls that are your friends




dear guy friends....of mine
why are you all not here!!!!????  I MISS YOU!!!!
please be prepared for skype/texts/calls.  
a needy girl is on the loose and she is coming for you!!! (please don't be concerned or frightened)
love
a girl who can't seem to find good guy friends in her town!!! 

(don't worry...I won't post a million and a half pics of you...i know it'll weird you out hahaha)


Anyways..Be Happy Be Healthy



Shout out and love to our host-ELISE!!!!!!!
(you really should check out her blog cause she rocks!)

Another Lazy Post

Sorry everyone for the lame-o-ness!

I just finished writing Wednesday's post though...and it will be good!

But for Tuesday...

Thanks Holly Golightly!

Its not really a secret that I LOVE LOVE  Breakfast At Tiffany's

And Holly Golightly

No longer will I play the field.

The field SUCKS

A Theory...Since Its Sunday...TWATTSG????

Not sure which one this is actually.

But point is...at the request of my dear Meredith

The difference between being AFRAID and SCARED.


Being in my mid 20s....there are a lot of changes that happen.
Moves, changes in my social scene/climate, new schools, new jobs
ALL sorts of new...and all sorts of unknown.

And sometimes I get really scared.
And thats ok.

Scared means that you care.  If you were apathetic about it....you wouldn't be scared.
And apathy is everyone's worst enemy.

Going out of my comfort zone scares me.  But that means it is probably good for me right?
When you are trying to increase your flexibility there is a little pain associated with the stretching of your muscles.
Good pain...good stretching.  Stretching that helps you grow.


HOWEVER.

Have you ever/known someone who has ever stretched too far.  They weren't prepared and hurt themselves?

Go with me on this analogy ok????

This over-stretching is what we are going to call being afraid. No bueno

Being afraid paralyzes us.  It stops our progress.

At the risk of getting all spiritual...fear is of Satan...and faith is of God right????

Just because you have faith doesn't mean you aren't a little scared.
It just means that you aren't afraid.
It means you trust and believe that the outcome will be what is best for you.

Being afraid means that you fear that the outcome you want won't happen.  And that things won't work out.
Being scared means not knowing which will happen, but being alright with both because you know both will end right........


Does that make any sense???
It does to me at least!

Now before I get too long winded so that you don't want to read this whole post...or any future post EVER....may I make a quick suggestion???

THIS was a broadcast from this evening by a leader in our church specifically for single adults 18-30

He spoke a lot about faith and having faith.  Watch it...it was stellar!  And he says it better than me.

Also...if you are a crier...it got me a little bit-just a warning



Also to learn more about my faith/beliefs...click on the I'm a Mormon" link on the side bar!!!! or just comment haha!

BE HAPPY BE HEALTHY!!!!!

SUPA Swilly Saturday

Note to self--apparently all those people who say Baby Brother and I look sooooo much alike were lying because AT LEAST 3 people have asked me if I was dating someone......

No everyone-the boy in my FB profile pic is my BROTHER..eww gross!

Ready for a few other swilly things??

Lets be real-I'm just lazy and tired from work and don't have the energy to put together a real post hahahaha

This is VERY true...DONT JUDGE!!!!!!

SOOOOO think this far more often than I should!

And then I remember why I wear makeup.......

truer words were NEVER spoken.   

SOOOOOO NEED THIS SHIRT!!!!!!
The song stuck in my head today......A little sassy...yep!!!!!!!!


 

Marching On

HAPPY MARCH!!!!!!

It is still snowing outside my window.

THIS IS NOT OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Spring--are you coming????  Cause I am feeling super pastey and my flip flops are feeling neglected.

ITS TIME FOR WARM...and even more than that ITS TIME FOR SUN!!!!!!!


like seriously!!!!


Its my weekend to work---BOOOOOO.
But oh well...thems is the breaks


And so for now...I will dream of THIS

Anybody want a fruity (nonalcoholic of course) colorful drink with a little umbrella????

SERIOUSLY NEEDING SOME COCONUT TANNING OIL!!!!!